We were discussing my husband's family recently. We don't think the fertility issues stopped at his dad. His dad's brother never had kids of his own and had to adopt. Obviously his grandad had the two of them, but they're very far apart and this was at a time when people had lots of children (my own dad was one of 13 and he and his brothers knew my husband's uncle), so a family of only two kids was strange.
They say that if you have a low sperm count and you have ICSI, you are likely to pass on those problems to any boy you conceive. If we manage to have a child that way, in 30 years or so, we might be watching them go through the same heartache. Is that right? Can one really justify doing that? It's not like it's a horrible disease or anything, but it could negatively affect their life. There might be a cure 30 years down the line, but will there still be the stigma?
I think the worrying thing for me is that I can spend the time to think about things like this at the moment because ICSI is not something imminent. However, if I suddenly came across the money to do it, wouldn't I just go for it without a second thought? Probably. I suppose it's only the same risk as carrying on trying to conceive naturally, which we're doing anyway. I can't help but feel guilty though for being willing to put our children through the agony we're going through to satisfy my selfish need for a baby. But who am I kidding? It's not like I'm just going to give up trying.
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